Fight for your Future

Fight_for_your_futureWe’ll fight over a parking spot… We’ll even fight over someone cutting in front of us in traffic… And we’ll especially fight over somebody talking about our Mama!  But Fight for our Future?  …We don’t know anything about that.

Well, get ready to get out of that LazyBoy chair, because something is about to change in the trajectory of your life.

I remember years ago, trying to fight for my future, but it always ended up being a loosing battle.

I struggled with so many addictions.  

I couldn’t even SEE my future, let alone throw a solid right hook into that which was holding me back.  People closest to me would say, “What do you want to do?  Who do you want to be?”…  I hadn’t the foggiest.

I was just trying to kill the pain.  …and I wasn’t doing too well in that fight either.

But what I want to share with you, is three quick tips to help you fight for your future.  I’m going to cover the Past, Present, and the Future.  I’m not going to try to “pump you up” either!

Why?  Because if you can’t really see what your future looks like, and everything looks a little… bleak (shall we say) right now— then how are you going to wake-up every morning, excited to get out of bed, and ready to go forward in life?  It’s just a bad state to be in.  I know, because I’ve been there, bought the T-Shirt.

So, How do you Fight for your Future?

not defined by the past

1.  You’ve Got to Forget about it!

So often, all we do is “Rehearse our Hurts”.   That’s got to stop.  (…I mean, right now.)

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There’s a book I came across awhile back called, The Message… it’s basically a modern version of a classic work— not sure if you’ve heard of it.  I like to call it, The Biblitext.  In this ancient work, a man named, Isaiah said:

Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history.  Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands.”   [ch. 43 // vss. 18-19]

Listen, you’ve got to GO TO WAR ON YOUR PAST and start to FIGHT FOR YOUR FUTURE!!  If not now, when?

The key is to stop allowing the past to live on inside of you.  It’s not you anymore!  At some point you’ve got to FORGET ABOUT IT!!   Move on!   Go Forward!!  Stop being dragged-along in the Mud-of-Regret!

We all know:  You can’t change your past, but you sure can change your future!  [Tweet that]

That power to change is within you!  But you’ve got to FIGHT for it!

So, how do we Fight for our Future?

being present

2.  You’ve Got to Be Alert!

When I was a little kid, growing up in Seattle, my Mom would always wake me up the same way everyday before school… “Rise and Shine! It’s time to wake-up!”   And Oh, how I hated that!  Why?  Because it caught me off-guard every single day!  I just wasn’t ready for it.

“My mom used to say that I became a fighter and a scrapper and a tough guy to protect who I am at my core.”  —Vin Diesel

There’s a story of the Shaolin Monks….  how these peace-loving holy men had to begin defending themselves… In the history of China there was much lawlessness.  Bandits and villains were widespread throughout the land.  Temples were vulnerable to attack, as were monks who traveled the country teaching the ways of Buddhism.

They weren’t expecting to get attacked.  But they did.  So, in order to protect themselves (and their home turf), these monks developed a system of fighting— later called,  Shaolin Kung Fu.  

Can you just imagine, if-you-will… Mr. Nice Buddhist Monk walking down the road…

(…who, by-the-way… doesn’t even believe in hurting a fly!)… and some Chinese Gangster wants to jack his bag.  “Yo! Gimme the bag!”   Then Mr. Monk would say,  “Oh no, so sorry, can not do this thing you ask. Thank you, I must go now— Good bye.”   But Mr. Gangster, (along with the enemies of your past) don’t always give up as easily as we’d like…. 

“I said….. Gimme the bag!!”  

“I so sorry.  But now I have no choice.  Now, you gonna get it!” 

BAM!!  BAM!!!!  BAM!!!!   

Here’s the thing.  Just because “God has a plan for your life”, or there’s a burning desire in your heart to accomplish a certain thing, like…

  • Start a business
  • Sing before millions of people
  • Marry the man of your dreams… or
  • Join the Peace Corps and help feed the children in Africa…

Just because you want to do a certain thing, doesn’t mean that there isn’t going to be some serious opposition against you.  Fight for your Future!  [Tweet that]

I remember watching a movie awhile back… (honestly I can’t remember the name of it.  But if you know, let us know in the comment section).  But the quote was… “Sometimes you just gotta take what belongs to you.”

So, here’s my question for you:  How long will you keep allowing yourself to get ripped-off by that condescending voice inside your head— before you really just stand up and start fighting for your future?

I mean, when will you really rise-up and just flat-out say along with our Mr. monk friend….  “I so sorry…. but NOW you must get the [BLEAP!!] out of my face!  You’re not going to stand in the way of my future any longer!!”

There’s a time to pray, and there’s a time to fight.  Never get those two confused.

Focus on the future

3.  You’ve Got to See It!

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

So, where are you at today?  Have you ever gone through a time where you wanted to give up on your dreams, and simply throw-in the towel?  How did you make it out the other side?  Or… Do you tend to focus more on the past?

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in the present?  Or… Is your head (sometimes) in the clouds, thinking about the future, but you struggle with how to actually get there?

Let me know in the comment section below.  Your questions, comments, and challenges will surely encourage many people too.  So, what are you waiting for?  Let’s get this party started!

Thanks!!
Robb-Sign

  • According to me to fight for your future what you need to do is that first change your already existing mindset about the goals which you can achieve and which you cannot. Secondly you must believe in what you are doing else it is of no use to put your dedication as a whole when you dont believe in what you do.

    Great write up. 🙂

    • Good insight, Charmie. The mindset along with a person’s belief system sure does have a lot to do with it. To the degree that we’re passionate about something is to the degree that we’ll pursue something, and really be motivated to change.

      Thanks for your comment,

      Robb

  • Hi Robb,

    What a fantastic, motivating post! The past is the past and anyone who holds on to it is just making excuses for not growing. Sorry if I sound a bit hard, but hey, that’s the truth. I work with many people and when they are not willing to go forward, I just cannot work with them any more. Period! Yea, I may sound hard core, but I won’t entertain folks that just want to live in the past, not move forward and uses excuses.

    I’ve been there a long time ago. I allowed my past to be who I was until…I got off my butt and stared reading some self help books, then taking courses, A long and beautiful journey!

    As for the God thing…I do have a strong belief in God, but God gave us free will. So, it is up to each individual to take that free will and do something about it. We are all precious creatures in this world and have many gifts to offer. Find out what that is, and give it!

    Oh boy am I all worked up! I love this article…Thanks!

    -Donna

    • Hi Donna,

      You sure do sound worked up! (I love it!) I think I can actually hear the blood pumping in your veins as I’m reading your comment. The match of your passion just hit the newspaper in the fireplace of this post.

      My hope is that your passion will continue to light even more hearts ablaze— with your blog and with your life. I know your contribution has added to our ‘community of fellow strugglers’ in a massive way.

      Many Thanks,

      Robb

  • Great points, Robb 😀

    Although I am not too sure whether I want to forget my past..I have made my mistakes. I do regret some of them, but it’s okay. Those mistakes made me – the person who I am right now. So, I am grateful for my past (and I want to keep remembering it, so that I won’t make the same mistakes again).

    I do love your other points, and I do agree.

    All of us have the ability to do great things – but, our minds/brains limit us. I know it’s hard to get past it, but we have got to try. And the first step is understanding how we (and our brains/minds) work…after that we can start identifying how we (specifically) work and make changes accordingly.

    Anyways, thank you for sharing this, Robb 😀 Hope you are ready to take on the weekend!

    • Hi Jeevan,

      It’s nearly impossible to completely forget our past, but we can take a positive approach to life where our mind isn’t preoccupied with rehearsing it’s hurts.

      Actually, your past is your greatest launching pad— and your future is your greatest destination. (“…Wow? Did I just say that?” …I better write that down for later…”) 😉

      Yes, have a great weekend and keep inspiring the multitudes with that awesome blog of yours!

      Robb

      • That’s an awesome way to put it…perhaps you can repeat it, when you give speeches 😀

        You could say something like, I remember talking to a young nice fellow on my blog and telling him this 😉

        Thanks 🙂 You too!

  • Hi Robb,

    Very inspiring and motivational article. I used to think about my past mistakes instead of concentrating on present and future. Then i realized if i had achieve my dreams, i had to let go my past mistakes.

    I think we should start designing our life, instead of defending it.

    Thanks for sharing this thoughtful post! 🙂

    • Adithya,

      I really like what you said, “…designing our life, instead of defending it.” Because it makes me think of how many people I’ve heard give so many reasons why they are the way they are. And it’s like they’re forever scarred with the wounds of the past, and never really seem to be able to live in the present, let alone move forward into their destiny.

      I’m glad that so many of us, who’ve been beat-down by life’s struggles, can come together at Today I Can Change, and be encouraged, (as well as liberated) to feel like “it’s ok” to share our pain.

      Thanks for stopping by—

      Robb

  • This was such a fun post to read! Shaolin Monks FTW!

    It was also very interesting because it reminded me of one of the lessons in my psych class in college — about how people of certain cultures tend to gravitate toward past-oriented, present-oriented, or future-oriented thinking.

    I think it said something about how the majority of Asians tend to value their past more [am Asian. can confirm.] and how Americans and Europeans value the future more. These are just theories though, as most things in psychology, but I think it helped me realize how stuck I am in the past sometimes.

    A little self awareness goes a long way!

    • Hi Glori,

      Sounds like a very interesting class that you were in. It kind of doesn’t surprise me that there would be some totally technical terminology for ordinary people being stuck in their thinking— be it past, present, or future.

      I guess too… I’m living up to what your psych class teacher said, (being a European American)
      “Robb is thinking about…. the Future”! 😉

      Thanks for sharing such an awesome comment and adding value to our community too, Glori. Bless ya!

      Robb

  • Hi Robb,
    This is the best motivation I have read this week. Thanks for motivating me!

    • Glad it encouraged you, Emmanuel!

      That’s what Today I Can Change is all about— Empowering people to dream bigger. I’m looking forward to checking out your blog as well. Thanks for your inspiring comment. Keep going strong!

      Cheers!

      Robb

  • Amy

    Great article, Robb. Very inspiring and of the Spirit. Yes, I remember Mom saying, Rise and Shine!! I was just thinking of that. I LOVE that quote by Eleanor Roosevelt–great! My hubby used to practice the Shaolin monks martial arts also–he was a master of it! He loved it! Thanks 🙂

    • Hi Amy!

      Yeah, the “Rise & Shine” routine was hard. 😉 But as I look back at it now, (thought it’s a common saying), there sure is a lot of wisdom in it, as well as training that we received to make sure that we don’t “sleep-in” on our future.

      That’s totally cool that your husband practiced that type of martial art. They’re peaceful people, but I wouldn’t want to mess with them either. 😉 Thanks for stopping by and sharing!

      Robb